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Morning. There's a name you've been carrying for months. You knew which one before you finished that sentence.

Leadership.

The Exit Conversation

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The question

Put a date on the morning you first knew — not suspected, knew — that this person was not going to make it in the role: how many months sit between that morning and this one, and what has this person been deciding about their own life across them, on a version of reality only you were holding?

The idea

The keeper test comes out of Netflix's culture writing: the 2009 culture deck, which also put the consequence bluntly — adequate performance gets a generous severance package — and No Rules Rules (2020), where Reed Hastings sets it out at length with INSEAD's Erin Meyer. The test is one question: if they told you they were leaving for a similar job at a peer company, would you fight hard to keep them? Patty McCord, the company's chief talent officer through those years, makes the companion argument in Powerful (2018): the moment calls for a straight conversation and real money, not the ritual that usually stands in for one. Borrow the honesty; don't borrow the procedure, which runs on American at-will employment. In Australia, the UK and much of Europe, whether somebody was warned, given a genuine chance to improve, and given a chance to answer the case before anything was settled weighs heavily in how a dismissal is judged afterwards; the thresholds vary by country, and whether the protection reaches this person at all can turn on how long they have been employed and, in Australia, on what they earn, so check where they sit rather than assuming either way. The default this frame teaches is the safe one: a real improvement process, properly documented, with a standard the person can actually pass — then a meeting where dismissal is named as a possible outcome, the reason is put in front of them and they are genuinely asked to answer it, and only then a decision. Two meetings, doing different work: the fairness is in the first one, where nothing is settled yet, and the honesty is in the second, where everything is. Because what the keeper test usually exposes is that you answered it months ago and said nothing, while the person went on making decisions about their life — a mortgage, a move, a job they turned down — on information you were quietly editing.

The framework

01
The question you answer before you book the room.
The keeper test is built to be run cold, on a quiet week, about everyone — not reached for in a bad month. Ask it of each name you manage: if they told me they were leaving for a similar job at a peer company, would I argue hard to keep them, or feel a small, private relief? Write the answers down and date them. A single no is a mood. The same no two months running isn't a verdict to sit on — it is the morning you owe the person a straight conversation and a real plan. Every month you wait, they plan their life around an answer only you hold.
02
Is this a plan, or a paper trail?
Genuine help and legal cover look identical on the page, so the honest version has to be built on purpose. Two questions settle it. Could the person read this standard and know, on a named date, whether they kept the job? And would you reverse the decision if they hit it? If not, it is a file, and it will be read as one. In Australia, the UK and much of Europe, a documented process is what the decision gets judged against afterwards. Assume you will have to show yours. Run it properly, run it fast, and say your own view out loud instead of burying it in the paperwork. And if the review date returns a fail, one more meeting sits between this plan and any exit conversation: tell the person in writing beforehand that dismissal is now a possible outcome, put the reason in front of them, and settle nothing until they have answered it.
03
The first ninety seconds decide the rest.
The person has already had their say and you have already weighed it, so this meeting has one job. Offer to have someone sit with them, before they have to ask for it. Then lead with the outcome, not with the news that an outcome exists: 'I've decided to end your employment here, and I wanted to tell you myself.' No weather, no compliment sandwich, no runway that lets them hope. Then the reason, once, using only specifics you have already raised with them — if any of it is news, say so, and say the failure is yours. Then draw the line out loud. What is not open: the decision. What genuinely is: the leaving date, what gets said internally, the reference, the handover, what you'll do to help with the next thing. Then stop talking and leave the silence to them.
04
Tell the team the same day, and say less than you want to.
The colleagues who carried the gap have earned a straight answer rather than a fortnight of rumour. Say it once, briefly, on the day, in whatever tense is true today: the person is leaving the role, here's how the work is covered this week, here is who to ask. Offer no evidence, no diagnosis, no defence of the call — the case you build to justify yourself is the case that follows them out of the building, and what somebody keeps on the way out is mostly whatever got said in the room they weren't in. Then a plain thank you to the people who absorbed the overflow.

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